Making the decision to move from living on one’s own into a congregate supportive living setting such as OSCR can be an emotional time. Once you notice your aging loved one may benefit from living somewhere with supports, the time has come to start the conversation. It’s important that seniors make the decision on their own and are not coerced to move against their will. Below are some tips for starting the conversation with your loved ones:
Bring Up the Conversation Early
Broaching the subject early on gives your loved one time to consider the move, weigh the pros and cons, and find a residence where they feel comfortable and supported. Some senior living facilities can have lengthy waitlists- the sooner you tour and apply, the better.
Be Respectful and Listen Carefully to their Wishes
A move is a big life change, and seniors can feel like they are losing their independence and familiar home that is full of happy memories. Avoid being confrontational or pushy, this will only negatively affect the conversation.
Include Other Family Members in the Conversation
If you believe it would be beneficial, ask your loved one’s family doctor, a trusted friend, or respected person in their life to join the conversation. Multiple perspectives can be beneficial and provide different viewpoints.
Offer Options for your Loved One to Consider
Gather information, book a tour, and reach out to friends and neighbours who have helped their loved one in a similar situation for referrals and suggestions. The more you know about your options, the easier it will be for your loved one to make an informed decision. Private OSCR tours can be scheduled at your convenience.
Listen to your Loved Ones’ Questions and Concerns
Be respectful and calm during the conversation. You can bring up your concerns and offer positive points for proceeding with a move to supportive living. If your loved one has lost their interest in cooking, let them know that delicious and nutritious meals will be prepared for them at OSCR. If home maintenance and housekeeping has been overwhelming your loved one lately, you can assure them that homemaking and laundry service is taken care of here. If your loved one is feeling lonely or lacking social interaction, describe the Healthy Living programs and activities that are available to them at OSCR. There are so many pros to discuss, and they can be tailored to your loved one’s current living situation.
By keeping the conversation simple yet informative, and treating them with respect and dignity, you can have a productive supportive living conversation with your loved one.
Registered Charity #108-090-432 and an approved Supports For Daily Living (SDL) program provider.
Program funding provided by Ontario Health and Halton Region.
OSCR's grounds are located on the territories of the Anishnabek, Huron-Wendat, Haudenosaunee, Ojibway, and Mississaugas of the Credit First Nation. We also recognize the past and present contributions of Métis, Inuit and First Nations peoples that continue to have a hand in shaping and strengthening these communities in our province and country as a whole.